Is Honesty The Best Policy?
There are many issues that surround our friendships and some make-or-break questions to which we are never quite sure of the right answer.
Under the theme of ‘I wish someone had told me years ago,’ I wanted to discuss in this blog whether you should tell someone if they’re making a ‘beauty mistake’ and there’s vast room for improvement – or whether you should just keep quiet.
When I was in school, one of the girls in our friendship group had really bad body odour. We were only about 13 and it was a bit like a problem that would come up in a Judy Blume novel. As we debated whether we should tell her about it, we tried to come up with some other analogies to test the theory. If you had spinach stuck in your teeth, would you want someone to tell you? And how should you phrase it so as not to hurt your friend’s feelings? If you’re one with the embarrassing problem, is it your friend’s responsibility to let you know?
I would say yes. Honesty is always the best way and if a friend is a true friend, you will want them to always look and feel their best.
Do you agree?
The beauty issue
But while spinach in the teeth and bad smells are much more ‘obvious’ problems, when somebody has bad eyebrows it can be a little more tricky. People’s looks are very personal, and often wrapped up within sensitive issues such as self-esteem and self-worth.
Suggesting to a friend that their eyebrows could do with a reshape is potentially a contentious topic.
They may respond with ‘But I like the way my brows look’ or even ‘What’s wrong with them?’ People are stuck in their ways and most of us will have had the same makeup and beauty routine for months or years. Having someone disrupt this with a simple, well-intentioned comment could be upsetting.
The thing is, it’s so worth it.
I know that my friends and I would appreciate being told if we had eyebrows that could be hugely improved. Yes, it might be a bit embarrassing and we would probably automatically go on the defensive at the time – but it won’t harm strong, solid friendships. In fact if they think calmly. most people will have respect for their friends for being honest.
If I tried on a dress that wasn’t flattering made me look big, I’d want an honest opinion from my friend and it’s the same with beauty.
Confidence and the right decision
There are reasons that we all have different talents and strengths – some of us are experts at writing, some at sales and some in beauty.
We can’t be expected to be perfect in every part of our lives and everyone needs a bit of help – and deserves a bit of a pampering session – every now and then.
I know my strengths and one of these is to create beautiful brows to frame and complement everyone’s individual face shape and features. I’ve lost count of the number of clients I’ve had who are surprised by just how great their eyebrows look after a treatment – and how much it has had a positive impact on their self confidence.
“I wish someone had told me years ago!” is a common exclamation
Brows are such an essential facial feature that will lift your face and complement your natural beauty. My treatments give clients perfectly groomed brows with exquisite definition that will induce bags of confidence through a more youthful, symmetrical appearance.
Sometimes my clients have confided in me that they had issues with their appearance but didn’t realise that it was their brows that were the problem. They confessed that they felt so much more beautiful after their treatment, and that’s something to be proud of.
At the end of the day, telling a friend how they can look even more beautiful is a positive action filled with good intentions.
Achieving the perfect eyebrow shape, colour and tone is a tricky part of any beauty treatment and having a little help to look absolutely fabulous from the moment you wake up can only be a good thing.
If that’s not a self-esteem booster, I don’t know what is!
I’d love to know what you think.
Would you want to know if your brows were bad? Or would you rather be left to get on with it alone?