How to feel more confident about your body – and learn to accept it… daily.
Hello everyone, it’s Helen and today I wanted to write a post about body confidence and how to not only like, maybe even love, but CELEBRATE your body in exactly the way that it is in this moment.
Life is so short, cliche I know, but actually, one fact that we can all be sure of. And so many of us spend so much of our lifetime, criticizing and moaning about the current ‘state’ of our bodies.
I get asked a lot by my clients, how I manage to feel good about my body, and I tell them that I too have my down days, of course I do, I am only human. But I made an active choice one day, to get up and show up and to like myself – daily.
You see, body confidence and confidence in general, is nothing more than a mindset.
Yes, there are tweaks and things that we can do to look better on the outside, but have you ever seen those stories, of people who spend a fortune on surgery only to still FEEL unhappy?
So, today, I thought that I would share with you, MY viewpoint on body confidence, and how YOU can begin to cultivate it. Which leads me to my first point, which is that confidence, is an inside out job – and you need to work at it daily.
Confidence is an inside out job – and you need to work on it daily.
Confidence isn’t something that comes naturally to most of us. It is an inside out job, and it is something that we need to cultivate on a daily basis. Have you ever met a woman who just seems to ooze confidence and you wonder ‘does she EVER have a down day?’ or is she just naturally blessed like that?
Chances are, she knows that she has to put in the mindset work, every day, and has made the active choice at some point in her life, to accept and LOVE her body.
Challenge: Every morning when you get up, make an active choice to look in the mirror, and regardless of any lumps, bumps, scars and wrinkles, say out loud to yourself ‘I bloody love my body!’. Have a little dance, make this fun, laugh, be light hearted about this. Jiggle that belly, wobble those breasts, and thank the Universe that you made it though to another day!
Your body is going to change so you’ve got to learn to accept that.
Have you ever had an image in your head, about how you want to look, and it’s like you put all of your time and energy into focusing on that, and then when you get there, something else has gone a bit skewiff, and you suddenly switch your focus onto that thing?
It’s like a lifelong game of ‘chase the perfect body’. Thing is ladies, your body is going to change, on a daily basis it changes, and there is not much that we can do about it. Well….. I smile there of course, because there ARE things that we can do about it, but even the best aesthetic treatments in the world cannot STOP the ageing process.
So at some point, hard as it may feel, we have to simply make a choice one day (and today is as good a day as any) to say ‘okay, this body is only here for a certain period, so I am going to hug it, and love it, and make the most of it, and celebrate every line, and every wrinkle – because those make your body bespoke and unique!
Make sure that the inside and the outside are on the same wavelength.
Aesthetic treatments are brilliant because they can help you stay looking (and feeling) like YOU – for longer. I would not be running my Clinic if I did not understand the power of this. However – I also refuse to treat women who come to me with such severe confidence issues (or even body dysmorphia) that they hope that an aesthetic procedure will be THE answer for them.
YES it can help you feel good. YES I wholly stand by. BUT – you need to also be working on the INSIDE, and if your insides don’t match your outside, then it’s just a matter of time before you crumble.
Therefore, I am on a mission to spread the word to women, about the importance of self care, YOU time #justforyou, and looking after their mindset in general. I feel that this element has been lacking in the aesthetics industry for some time now, and it’s my DUTY to try and correct this.
As you may have seen, I recently launched my first book titled ‘Your Best Kept Secret’, and I am also in the process of redefining my treatment process. This is because I want things to become more bespoke. I want you to connect to YOU again, and this requires something that goes far deeper than something aesthetic. But when combine aesthetics with a confident mindset – my God, absolutely ANYTHING is possible!
Helen’s final thoughts….
Body confidence, and confidence in general is a mindset and only YOU can choose to create it. So, let me know over on Facebook what your thoughts are on this, and know that I have some really exciting things coming in the pipeline to help us all work on body confidence!
As always, I’d love for you to come and chat to us, over on our Facebook Page, and if you’d like to come in and talk to me about any areas on your body where that you’d like to work on aesthetically, please book a consultation with me, or feel free to send me a message here.
What I will say though, is that be warned – just as I love and adore helping women to like what they see on the outside, as a side effect of working with me, you will also learn to yourself on the inside. Sorry, I can’t help it! It’s just all part and parcel of all that is Taylormade.
Until the next time, have a wonderful weekend, whatever you are doing, and remember – go dance in front of that mirror and shout ‘I bloody love this body!’.